Invite the compassionate Presence of Spirit into your heart to help you learn what you are doing or thinking that may be causing your pain.
Consciously move out of the intent to protect/control and into the intent to learn about what you are doing or thinking that may be causing your pain so that you can move into loving yourself and others.
When you connect with Spirit and move into the intent to learn, you are in a loving Adult state, as opposed to the ego wounded self state you are in when you want to protect/control.
In Step Two, you welcome and embrace all your feelings with a compassionate intent to learn.
When someone has hurt you deeply and you just want to get back at him or her, ask yourself: What is the high road? What is truly loving to myself? Will hurting another heal me?
By Dr. Margaret Paul