Invite the compassionate Presence of Spirit into your heart to help you learn what you are doing or thinking that may be causing your pain.
Consciously move out of the intent to protect/control and into the intent to learn about what you are doing or thinking that may be causing your pain so that you can move into loving yourself and others.
When you connect with Spirit and move into the intent to learn, you are in a loving Adult state, as opposed to the ego wounded self state you are in when you want to protect/control.
In Step Two, you welcome and embrace all your feelings with a compassionate intent to learn.
Every relationship in our lives offers us a gift of growth. Think about your most difficult relationships - family, friends, co-workers. Today, pick one to focus on. How is this person a mirror for you? How do you not take care of yourself around this person? What do you want from this person that you are not giving to yourself?
By Dr. Margaret Paul